I was reminded today from the Spirit Messages Oracle by John Holland, to "Let Go". And as simple as it is to say let go, it sure has been challenging and oftentimes difficult for me to do. My personality is such that I care about people. I care about them understanding me and me them. I want individuals to feel safe with me. In the process, my over indulgence in making sure they're safe ensures that I place myself in harm's way every time. That I give more to protecting, nurturing, and securing others' emotions and feelings while distancing myself from my own. It's pretty common for people like me, some people would identify as INFJ, some people as fearful types and self conscious. The thought of me placing a tarot card or an oracle card anywhere on my social media or even talking about it with friends and family used to give me the chills. It was like Stevie Wonder said in his song, "skeletons in your closet, itching to come outside." I understand it now as a mode of expression, of creativity, as a way to access that inner part of me that has always been empathic, sensitive, knowing and trusting.
My silence was about not having to field questions from people about it nor respond to ignorant comments. Because, let's be clear, I can go to 100 real quick and shut the whole relationship down just to release the necessity to interact with those who disagree. And I respect people who disagree, it's gotten to a place now in me if I don't feel as safe emotionally as you feel to say things without a constructive response, then I can't be myself in the relationship anyway. It may be okay then to release and let go and let that relationship be where it's gonna be. Which may be nowhere. Ah, but therein lies the rub...
That's the challenge, the hard part. Releasing old habits and limiting beliefs and inhibitions we have about ourselves may come with letting go of old and outdated behavioral patterns and thoughts purely for survival's sake. Friendships, lovers, and family may be in that group too. Becoming okay with the releasing and letting go process takes some time and a lot of inner work on yourself, facing your own demons, how you've shown up in relationships, and the expectations you have of others. The releasing and letting go is not so much about dismissing people or dismissing circumstances or avoiding and ignoring what's going on in the world. It's an act of love. I would venture to say, not just self-love. It is you showing up loving you and this situation or person enough to allow it and you to co-exist, releasing judgment and attachment to expectations and outcome.
I can still love and appreciate a situation that I went through without interacting with it on a daily basis, or re-experiencing the situation through pictures, social media, and the like. I can still express love and appreciation to and for someone I feel may have hurt me even if they didn't intend to and release them to be fully themselves apart from me. That my love is not contingent upon my being present. The work for ourselves comes in trusting ourselves and our decisions to know that we're okay, we're not wrong, no-thing is wrong with us, that we are not alone or abandoned and that we haven't messed up our lives. It's complex and simple. Our perspective and approach to it will determine the outcome. But the importance of releasing the outcome and the expectation lends itself to us creating more forward motion and inspired action to feel better, to balance out the releasing and letting go with an embrace of encouraging possibilities.
There's a lot going on in our world right now and it's demanding our attention, all of it all at the same time. Just scroll up and down your social media feed for a couple of minutes. It's there. If you have been feeling frustrated discouraged, have multiple situations and occurrences happening, it may be time to take a break. Give it to yourself. May be time to take a break and love, support, and encourage yourself.
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Peace for the Journey! Regina